Please advise as to how to mend a broken heart. Partying has always always done the trick for me in the past and then meeting someone to calm me back down. BUT IT JUST AIN'T WORKING this time!!!!!!!!!!!!                                                                                                                                                                              

Dont break it in the first place ....simples                                                                                                                                                                              

Bring it round Kooky. The number of things I've had to mend in the last week.. .. mini moto's, fairy lights, an iron (what do they do?) remote control helicopter. May as well see if I can mend you.                                                                                                                                                                              

it cant be done, you just have to distract yourself,try to keep busy and hope it will sort its self out in time.                                                                                                                                                                             

Cease all contact and delete their numbers from your mobile.                                                                                                                                                                             

And if you should ever see them again, rip off their head and crap down their neck. That usually works.                                                                                                                                                                             

yep that deff does help!                                                                                                                                                                             

not sure if we will live that long, for enough time!                                                                                                                                                                             

Chocolate                                                                                                                                                                              

I've been conned, you seemed so nice in real-life BL!                                                                                                                                                                             

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That's abit harsh bandit. I do agree though, don't get mad, get even. Revenge is a dish best served cold apparantly. Personally I like to serve it piping hot.   Probably won't make you feel better kooky but it'll give you something to pass the winter evenings on.                                                                                                                                                                             

Thanks Ian! You are all heart lol   Thanks Tony! You are all heart too! My heart needs to avoid men at the minute as it just causes further damage.....   Thats what I thought too Julie!!! I am just not a bloody patient woman!!! Wish it would hurry up and mend!!!   Think I might have to revisit my contact list - had to change my last mobile number cos of a stalking ex!!!! so am pretty careful now as it takes me ages to learn new numbers ..... but I am defo gonna delete a couple of numbers ....... damage limitation!!!! and removes temptation to say and do stupid things!!!!   Further advice still welcome though                                                                                                                                                                              

Oh I don't do chocolate, nor revenge nor aggression - perhaps that's where i am going wrong!!!   Oh dear                                                                                                                                                                             

You know I am nice LTGTR   In reality, ex's are ex's for a reason and irrespective of who said or did what, unless someone has died (I have never had a partner die)then I believe that time is a great healer and it can take as long as it takes. Distractions and the support of genuine pals are paramount, and try to never lay blame at your own feet or judge yourself.                                                                                                                                                                             

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The advice on distraction is a great one kooky , pass your motorcycle test, go shopping buy yourself some new gear and a bike and travel to new places and do loads of biker weekends and meet new freinds, then book flights to daytona bike week wow think i will do that my self lol,
time ,good freinds and re learning to laugh helps to heal all                                                                                                                                                                              

Oh thank you everyone - distraction me thinks is good but not when its more men lol defo avoiding more distractions for now!!!   keeping busy not a problem got 3 jobs and at uni!!!!   lots of mates and laughs I have   Dynatoon - That image of the heart ripped out reminds me of my last hubby - he said he would rip his heart out for me.....he was drunk at the time though lol ......erm yeh right ....   BL - I did have a hubby that died - not a nice experience to go through - but we all survived....but you are spot on - an ex is an ex for a very good reason.......   and I do know it gets better in time......    Thank you!!!                                                                                                                                                                             

Well I cannot comment on this, I agree you never get over someone, but you do get used to being without them, 

However I don't agree with an ex being an ex for a reason .. I did once however Ian & I took a while to sort something's out in our lives, some times its just not the right time for a relationship at that point in time but we are now are very happy together ... but it is 3rd time lucky for us ! 

                                                                                                                                                                             

Oh wow that sounds like a real love story to me ........ how sweet but guessing complicated too ........ yes I can relate to the wrong time wrong place theme   I am feeling much calmer now   Thank you  but then I have had a much needed safe hug from a mate - hugs are calming and soothing