all ways were a helmet

only one pilly at a time please 
were the rite gear 

                                                                                                                                                                              

Hmmm . . . 
As a long standing Pilly, I find it essential to ask the rider how they want me!!! To lean, or not to lean, that is the question.
 
Everyone's different, and they all have their little foibles.  (I don't hang on to the rider though).  I see it as their job to ride, and mine to sit back, shut up*, and do as I am told. . . which has included map reading, paying the toll, asking directions and getting a round in!!
 
* I do like to sing though . . .                                                                                                                                                                             

Be prepared not to see much! It really is about feel. Much as I love riding, being in control myself - sometimes being pillion is just pure laziness as let go of everything and just feel the bike. :)
My ex regularly had to check back with his hand, make sure he hadn't lost me as I just let his riding guide how much i should lean etc. and as everyone says, close your eyes on corners!!!

Goodness lots of advice it's interesting to hear other pillion opinions, as others have said.
The shutting the eye thing on corners it's either that or look round the corner and not over the cliff edge as I found out this weekend, I don't mean look over the rider by bobbing your head round, as in basic bike training look where the bike should be going. If not the driver will have to literally heave the bike round the corner or worse you'll end up in the opposite side of the road.
You definitely have to go with the bike not fight it, relax, if your relaxed it makes for smooth riding, though floppy is not good either
:-)
I'm very old fashioned and only a single girl gets on as my pillion (unless with express permission sought by me from partner) as causes issues.
Waist grabbing well at least the intentions nice, getting on and off just ask or wait for the nod please girls. I was getting fuel on a brand new BMW RT 1200 and my long term pillion (best ever and wife at the time) hurled herself off the bike, resulting in me being pinned under the bike, with multiple bruising, it took four guys to lift the bike with full panniers.
Junctions and wobbles don't match especially at a junction with an incline.

If a pillion offered tea/coffee bacon butties that'd be great of course always welcomed.
Comms are the way to go it makes such a big difference, they are very cheap on the net, signals are good.
Pillion, us riders do care and being warm and safe is a priority;
your our responsibility.

Oh going for a pee at stops just before you leave and have fuelled bike and your tummy make for more enjoyable riding.

Extra clothes such as a fleece, removable jacket liner, waterproof gloves are essential for touring and even those short days in the uk.

Happy riding :-)??

Just sit still,and enjoy the world sliding by...:)                                                                                                                                                                             

I'm curious to know how many male riders have gone pillion, and what was your experience of it?                                                                                                                                                                              

Went pillion from childhood into my teens,hated it more and more until i got my first field bike,been a poor pillion ever since....think it's a 'control' thing tbh...:)                                                                                                                                                                             

the  best  pillion   ive ever had  was a large  sack  of  potatoes  ..  the said  sack  did  nothing  because  it  wasn't  living  ,,  it  didn't  think  about  leaning  with  the rider or  with  the  bike  , it  did  nothing  it  just  sat  there  .. it  didn't  fight  the  corners just  incase the  bike fell  over  it  did  nothing  ,,  so  girls  and  boys  to  start  with  , just  be  a  non living  sack  of  potatoes  ,, 

funny that buzz...thats exactly what i tell virgin pillions, just sit there like a sack of spuds.                                                                                                                                                                             

some  ppl   over think  and  over explain  and  over complicate  things ,  KISS  ..  :)   NICE  ONE  STUIE

                                                                                                                                                                             

It has been noted by several folk that Mr Ken needs a medal having me a a pilly as i dont sit still lol                                                                                                                                                                              

And you wonder why he has a dicky ticker
                                                                                                                                                                             

I pilly on the back of a lady rider now & then. I think riders should be a pilly for themselves so they know what its like. When I take a pilly regardless of experience I always go slow with very gentle acceleration  / braking until they get an idea how the ride will progress, once I know they are comfortable then the volume control gets wound back a little more.