text isn't a big deal really - photos, videos, music etc is a problem as the data is huge.  Think how small a word document is until you add photos to it.   I see where your coming from with the sent items thing.  I suppose I could make it so that you can hide the items youve sent but it might lead to confusion.                                                                                                                                                                             

    PML @ confusion, who for? I'm confused                                                                                                                                                                               

Hey matt how you doing - like youve not got enough with settling in aswell as deleting profiles - like you say people should help themselves - youve got loads of information if you look.                                                                                                                                                                                 

lots happen behind the scenes though mate, things you wouldn't believe.  Like people being harassed and threatened with death threats by the partners of someone they met etc.   I know of one case being reported to the police, but I never got asked for info so dont know what happened there.   People are banned regularly, and forum posts deleted etc.  Thats why its good now people have to subscribe to post - filters the d*** ***ds out                                                                                                                                                                             

I have just been scanning through this thread and I know how you feel Matt. I have been a system  operator for a bulitin board back in the days when the world was in black and white and the internet was for geeks. Now I am a system administrator for a larche finacial organisation where even the backups have backups. The help is out there, but sometimes when you create help files what may seem logical to you is a mad womans knotting to someone else.   It ain't easy running a site like this especaly where there is a membership fee involved because peple expect somthing for their money. but to do it and hold dowm a full time job is somthing else.   Well done Matt                                                                                                                                                                             

Cheers mate.  Its all good tho, cos im a bit of a workaholic and i hate to be doing nothing.  If i was to give up my job and just tinker on here all day id tear my hair out lol