i think maybe it depends at what angle you are hanging off bike as you get on it as a pilly.... im only lil and there is no way i can get me leg up and over a lot of bikes... well actually most!!   i get on bike by putting all weight on one foot peg but i do it in such a way as im kinda leaning into the middle weight of bike not pulling it over!!! and i swing up and over in one smooth quick move but again without pulling or causing bike to be unbalanced   ive been told many times ya dont know im there and i love goin pilly.. sometimes i even close me eyes and just feel the move of bike.. lean into acceleration and squeeze thighs on breaking etc....only trouble is not good idea to close eyes and go with bike incase of emergency stops     i agree with everyone in get your first pilly to be one that is experienced and just go short distance up road you kow well or try in very large car park that has lots space... ive never taken a pilly myself either....   good luck with it and im sure ay will be fine with the right back seat warmer   ps... same as nutkins... squeeze on sides to say ok to set orf adn wait for rider to let me know ok to get on or off... never move or jump on or off till rider is ready ... also as a good pilly you can read when rider is likely to accelerate or overtake etc or brake...                                                                                                                                                                             

Speaking as someone with little legs (I can just about tip toe my CB with both feet or ball of one foot), I've never minded pillions getting on by using the pegs as long as I'm ready for it.

As such, I always have a little "briefing" with any pillion regardless of their experience.

1. I insist on them waiting for the ok from me before getting on or off.
2. If they need to shift position, stretch legs etc (obviously not something as minor as looking over my shoulder) then they are only allowed to do this when the bike is moving at a reasonable pace and then ideally only on the straights. If they must shift position whilst we are stationary, then again they must wait for my ok.
3. When riding with a pillion, I'll try and make my riding as smooth as I can to avoid sudden braking or harsh acceleration. In return I expect a pillion to ensure they stay put when I'm slowing down, accelerating or cornering and this generally involves holding on at all times.

And ... 4. If possible, I like them to use a lid with an Autocom headset so I can speak to them at any time to check they're ok and similarly, they can keep me informed about their requirements.

No 4 is usually not possible though as a lot of regular pillions have their own helmets.

If I do take a pilly who regularly breaks the above "rules" I'll stop taking them out, which I know sounds harsh, but I'm not dropping my bike just because someone fancies a quick bike run.

Other than that my only rules are to relax, flow with the bike and enjoy! I've taken a number of BM members pillion and I'd hope they all enjoyed it.

(Although I could be wrong lol!)

That's what I try to do Suzi but I never manage one fluid motion. Because of my knee problems I struggle getting on and off and usually have to use the right side as that's my stronger leg. I can manage the left on the CB if we use a kerb or on a lower bike. Again because of leg weakness I use my arms to assist me but try to push myself up through the seat rather than pull off the bike. 
I always ask my rider if it's ok to get on and off.                                                                                                                                                                                   

I allways try to ride to what the pillion is comfortable with and not as i would normally ride .
and make sure you communicate with them as to what they and you expect   ie: have taken pillys who sit uprite in corners they need to know it afects the bike   Ive even had some one leaning the bike in for me from the back seat , he got told off too ( allthough i did wonder why my bike was handling so well that day lol )   but as others have said take an experienced pilly first time if you can other wise find a quiet place to try it out first   Have fun !!                                                                                                                                                                             

Nothing wrong with a pillion using the pegs to get on with ... as long as the rider knows. Kaycat does and its not a problem.

Plus if you have loads of gear on, panniers etc, and the height of the seat and the length of the pillions legs etc there wont be any choice.

Oh and you don't lean with the rider, you relax and go with the rider 

                                                                                                                                                                             

I'm still fairly inexperienced as a pilly but so far have been out with great people and have had total trust in them, and even if I've been a bit wobbly on the back they've been fine (or at least that's what they told me ) some people have even taken me out more than once

I still don't like it when the bike leans quite a bit and I still find that hard to just go with it, guess its the lack of control feeling

I was told to get on using the pegs,  I can't get my leg over most bikes and I have a bit of a knee problem. Sometimes I wobble getting on and off but so far no total mishaps

                                                                                                                                                                             

I still don't like it when the bike leans quite a bit and I still find that hard to just go with it, guess its the lack of control feeling

hippy hunny
close your eyes  till u go strat again it not a much as a lean as u think
                                                                                                                                                                             

Iagree with Geof and Shadow, I let my passenger know when im ready and they can use the peg. Also on the side stand, i brace the bike so the stand doesn`take all the weight. Piick routes with no slow tight turns if poss, there the hardest. Keep atit thow it`ll come. Remember when you first start to ride or drive you don`t know wether to stick or twist, now its 2nd nature.                                                                                                                                                                               

Thanks to everyone for loads of practical help and advice on this... I really appreciate it... thank you!   I'll heed all the advice and start slowly with a friend who is a very experienced rider and who knows whats needed from a pillion. I've just got to convince him to be the one ha ha!!   It's so helpful to get lots of different/similar opinions on issues like this and I think forums like this one are so useful in this way.   Brilliant... thanks all!