OK I am a bit thick when it comes to this sorta stuff (well most sorta stuff really) I have had a few winks (I sed WINKS) and I have naturally winked back, cos hey they were damn cute(whoops to much info), so in order for me to actually talk to em I gotta join (Pay) which aint a problem, but if I pay how do I know if the people I send messages to can reply, ie are they paid up members. Shit I have confused myself now                                                                                                                                                                              

You don't know hun is the answer, you just have to hope that they pm ya back. If they like the look/sound of ya then they will pay to be able to pm ya back. Then ya take it from there.                                                                                                                                                                             

Thats me screwed then hehehhee                                                                                                                                                                             

it amazes me when u get winked at,so u wink back and/or pm the winker and then-silence!!! (yep,i did say winker)                                                                                                                                                                             

*sigh*                                                                                                                                                                             

whats up rube? xx                                                                                                                                                                             

i do think that it should be on your profile that you cant wink or pm back,  im not a paid up member still thinkin about it !!!   i joined a site last year and just after it went down hill so am a bit guarded about doin it again cos it was money wasted not saying this site will go down hill but im still on the fence so to speak. i have had a few pms and winks and cos no one knows that im not a full member and i cant reply they think you stink or are rude, and that is so not the case.  because there is the choice to join or not to join i feel it would be right to have it put somewhere who the paid members are and who are not, a star or something next to their name would do, so others are aware that not all peeps can get back to them. just my opinion                                                                                                                                                                                 

Good point storm hun                                                                                                                                                                             

would be helpful storm,then u know if people are ignoring u intentionally or not!                                                                                                                                                                             

Yeah but sometimes I prefer to live in ignorance and assume they CANT pm me.... not sure I want proof I'm being totally ignored                                                                                                                                                                              

Witchiest!!!   I'll return your winks!!! hehe!!!                                                                                                                                                                             

daz,trust me,i wouldnt ignore u hun.xx thanx 4 my winks mark!! xx                                                                                                                                                                             

Whats stopping people communicating with each other on here, I am reluctant to pay just in case it doesn`t happen                                                                                                                                                                             

it does happen gs! xx                                                                                                                                                                             

Thank you witchiest for putting my mind at rest At the moment every penny counts but in the next month i should be working then i should be able to pay up If every one i meet or communicate with on here are as plesent as you are i will be very happy                                                                                                                                                                             

Everyone's cool on here gs !                                                                                                                                                                             

cool as ice !!!!                                                                                                                                                                             

with choc flake in !!! x                                                                                                                                                                             

and juice drizzed over it   an can i ave bits on mine tooo please ?????                                                                                                                                                                             

haha, i shud pop into the forums more often cos ur all bloody mental!   Storm - site never went downhill, its just got bigger and better everyday!  The forums show u just that.   With regards to the indication as to whether or not someone can reply, wouldn't that just make you go through your list of favourites and just PM the ones that can reply?  Or would you still PM them all (Maybe with a message saying "cough up u tight git")?  lol.