yes it must be Allison and I bet 99% of people would do just that I just cant seem to bring myself to that point its a bit sad really and im not sure if its because of what happened with my husband or not but its unfortunately definitely not for me im sure there is loads to gain from that special person and being with them forever growing old together and still holding hands at 90 years old I see it occasionally in the street and think aww how lovely but I just cant commit myself to it, maybe I should have went for the councelling when I got divorced I don't know. I just know the thought of being married scares the hell out of me.

Don't marry 'that special person'.

Marry a tw@t , coz there ain't no shine to wear off and they can't get worse only better lol.

                                                                                                                                                                             

God love you dustin, always find a positive in a negative! Lol                                                                                                                                                                             

It's very naive to expect a tw@t to get better. I know from bitter experience that they only get worse. I'm pleased to say that this does not apply to my wife, Moonstone who I met on BM and married in May. We are very happy and not expecting one another to change - for better or worse!

Hasn't this thread gone off on a tangent? The wedding of zzrbabe42 and Russ will be a week tomorrow so let's wish them well instead of debating the pros and cons of the institution of marriage.

      Hear hear                                                                                                                                                                                     

Was thinking pretty much the same to be honest cataraptor                                                                                                                                                                             

The tw@t comment explained for those without the ability to see the wood for the trees.lol

Everyone marries 'that special person' then divorces them because they turn into a tw@t

The reality is. That person was always a tw@t. You married a tw@t.

You may have decided to ignore their behaviour, or be blinded by love or more likely by the fairytale.

Far better to be to be honest with yourself and marry the person , warts and all.Than to marry some romantic version of them .

It's good advice for those with the intelligence to understand it.

Marry a tw@t , not a dream.

hear hear .

Pmsl @ Dusty.                                                                                                                                                                             

P.s. I ain't anti marriage. I sincerely hope that everyone has the opportunity to be happily married forever.

And I wish all the couples on BM every success xx



                                                                                                                                                                             

I tried marriage once, it wasn't for me. But as Dusty says, those that find the one that fills their life to overflowing, I wish them nothing but a lifetime of joy.                                                                                                                                                                             

Only a couple of days to go until the next wedding folks!  So good wishes go to

 zzrbabe42 & Russ - 23 August 2014

                                                                                                                                                                             

All the very best to Russ and Debz today. xx                                                                                                                                                                             

Congratz to ZZR and Russ today, may you both have a lifetime of happiness together                                                                                                                                                                              

Thanks everyone we had an amazing day and everything went swimingly and thank you to all who came and made it fabulous xx                                                                                                                                                                             

Got some piccies of the wedding, the dress, and some dodgy people from Debs n Russ's wedding on profile pics.    Debs looking amazing in a stunning dress and Russ looking all daper in a suit.



                                                                                                                                                                             

Today is Claire and Steve's BIG DAY . Have a great day to a lovely couple xx :-)                                                                                                                                                                             

Yes have a great day you 2

                                                                                                                                                                             

Wedding buffet, booze and dancing. I'm envious.

Have a great big beautiful day xx Claire and Steve xx