C'mon Debs - stop pussyfooting around, I knows yer can't resist me...                                                                                                                                                                             

XK theres no answer to that!                                                                                                                                                                               

Did you, or did you not, agree to become my wife, on Arran?                                                                                                                                                                             

LMFAO!!!!!!! behave lad!                                                                                                                                                                             

btw thanks people for your input....my biggest obstacle to this was my 21 yr old son who's autistic....however i got home from work tonight and he said " mam about moving....im ok with that....but i have 5 conditions!" we'll not go there for now ....but it doesnt involve leprechans thank god! (private joke which i'll explain if anyones that desperate!)

Obviously I vote you move back to Manc and as a sideline, fix my bike. I could probably push some work your way, actually as I work in legal/HR with SMEs.                                                                                                                                                                              

PS - my son has aspergers, so I might be able to sympathise with you!                                                                                                                                                                              

Autism versus XKism...cud be interesting - just might get on like a house on fire!                                                                                                                                                                             

I agree with all the positive things that have been said Debs...go for it girl!! BUT...make sure you can secure enough dosh to keep you content... and enough security for your kids and all dependants to make the move guilt free. Onwards and upwards                                                                                                                                                                              

it will be SW scotland if i decide to move over...i wouldnt/couldnt go back to manchester (the noise/busy ness of the place scares the hell outta me!) SW scotland will be halfway between my grandchildren who are in montrose and manchester. but we will see nearer toward xmas not looking to move before my tenancy ends in feb!

I'm in a similar quandry. My youngest has now left for uni & she has definitely fledged and won't come back now apart from to visit. The other daughter at home is planning on moving out next year.   I'm a manc too & all my family are there. Sometimes I miss it...but not that often. I can't really afford to keep on living in this house & it will be too big any way. There isn't a right lot keeping me here.....got to make some big decisions in 2013.   Sometimes I feel really isolated living up here. I don't feel that I ever integrated into local society properly & my social life seems to be all over the place. So I've been weighing up my options. I've got a job that's ok-ish but the pay is crap   But then I look at my beautiful mountains......How could I ever consider leaving.   Cumbria is the most amazing, uplifting place to live in many ways. Southwest Scotland has got a lot of similar characteristics and advantages....it's relatively easy to get onto the M6 / M74 corridor and then you can get anywhere. From here I can easy get to Manchester for a night out.   From Dumfries/ Galloway you can get up to Glasgow or over to the north east just as easy as getting to Lancashire / Manchester.....and then you can go home again to breathe clean air, not have to worry about your stuff getting nicked and sanity                                                                                                                                                                                 

Its difficult to make such big decisions, In my case it will be slightly easier as I will have to move. At the moment I have sold my house and moved back in with my mum due to her poor health, she needs help and care.   When the sad day happens I could not get and would not want another mortgage at my age so would have to sell this place to split proceeds with sister.   I would not buy another house as I have no Children to pass it on to so may as well keep the cash and enjoy life. A good friend of mine lives in Florida 6 months of the year and he has showed me properties over there for 18 grand. Makes sense to me to spend a couple of winter months a year over there, ride a bike in winter sun for a change.   Rental market good over there so could get some income of it as well.                                                                                                                                                                             

Sounds like you deserve a new adventure Debs.
I wish you well .
Dusty x                                                                                                                                                                              

well so long as you dont think im stalking you Dusty!                                                                                                                                                                              

If you want to move and your son is ok with it, your both happy with the location in scotland the only other thing to take into account is work for both of you
                                                                                                                                                                             

thinkin self employment is the way to go JP but i have a few different things i can do some of which i can pass on the John if he can concentrate long enough to learn anything constructive.                                                                                                                                                                              

Debs , the thought never entered my head .

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Hey Debs having seen where you live I can understand your reservations about moving, but given you're thinking of Scotland you will still have the fantastic scenery.  To be honest, when we were there I felt at times I was in Scotland and other times in Wales!!! Mad eh?!   I've no doubt you'll reach the right decision whatever you decide to do.                                                                                                                                                                               

Theres North Cumbria too. 


I'd go for it, new start is always good.
                                                                                                                                                                             

well been offered a place on the outskirts of manchester by a very nice chap on here....its nr glossop/woodhead pass......not my first choice granted but anyone any thoughts.   it makes sense on some levels like work and still have lots of friends in the area etc just not too sure i can cope with the noise and traffic having lived in the arsehole of nowhere for so long.