I fell in love with a picture of a fella on here and HAD TO HAVE HIM!!!!!! lol.I'm cooking his dinner at the mo while he watches the footie                                                                                                                                                                              

Until you actually meet in person its 'Buyer beware' IMHO. And you should not have your expectations at a point where they could be dashed on the rocks.....just sayin'                                                                                                                                                                               

I've only ever met one person face to face after making contact on the net dating sites, and we were together for 3 years after that. As a shy person initially, i wouldn't have the confidence to approach a total stranger (male or female), and strike up a conversation, but if we'd spoken or messaged online then the ice is already broken. I suppose in the past people like myself would maybe rely on friends' introductions, but these type of sites give us a bit of independence in that area. You may or may not meet the love of your life, but you will always meet new people and make new friends.                                                                                                                                                                             

i lost faith till biker match, now my life has turned around i am happy and engaged my kids are happy so are LC's so life is good......bloody good!!! thank you bm                                                                                                                                                                              

Well said WR,   Not one being comfortable approaching someone 'cold' as it were in social situations, I too prefer the ice broken by messaging first.   So it's 'horses for courses'  We are all different thankfully and what's right for one is never always right for all!                                                                                                                                                                               

I'm just so pleased it has introduced me finally to the woman of my dreams.   (that'll teach him to leave his laptop logged on - RC1965 )                                                                                                                                                                             

Nice one.   You can almost hear the words eminating from JP's lips! lol                                                                                                                                                                             

can someone pass me a knife please                                                                                                                                                                              

That gurgling sound is the blood spurting from my throat                                                                                                                                                                              

Pmsl @ RC1965 via Jps lappy!!!                                                                                                                                                                             

He just pretends not to like me, I got a cooked dinner and a pudding today (and no, I'm not suffering with stomach cramps and food poisoning).   He either likes me or wants something - time will tell lol                                                                                                                                                                             

If he's cooking for you "he likes you and wants something"

LOL                                                                                                                                                                              

I think as far as 'dating' goes then, yes, you do need to meet at some point. Having said that, however, I am interested in the ways that communities form in this medium (yes, my life is THAT interesting... :p) and i do think that you can get a good feeling for who you will, or will not, get on with by the way they present themselves online. This assumes, of course, that they don't deliberately misrepresent themselves, which is more of a problem on specifically dating sites than elsewhere I guess.

Yes, very true Drum, it's easy to get fooled sadly                                                                                                                                                                             

I think the net is a great introduction, but for many, taking it "the next step" is grueling, if not almost impossible! It would help if you could be sure you're dealing with a real person, and not someone's ego trip, or "fishing for compliments" But I guess that's the risks you take here, there are as many sob stories as there probably are love stories!

Indeed, I think it's just a case of remembering to be as vigilant on here as you would be if you met a stranger in a pub.  Don't give out too much info just in case because there are people out there, as described above, whose intentions are not honorable and they are not looking for someone genuine - they are either out for a what they can get either physically or otherwise or just want attention and a boost.   I think the best advice if you can is to get along to events, take a friend if you want to, and meet up with people.  If you are chatting to someone on here who is local to you, arrange to meet up at a local event, that way if it all goes t*ts up then at least you haven't had a wasted journey and may even meet someone different along the way.                                                                                                                                                                             

If he's cooking for you "he likes you and wants something"

Oh Gl, you're such a cynic. Havn't met him yet, but JP seems a genuine, loyal, good humoured, kindly guy  like all us guys (Well most, hmmm, well some.....hmmmmm ........ well me sometimes) hmmmmm, well I try.
                                                                                                                                                                             

@Rockchick1965

".... or just want attention and a boost. "

Hmm Boost please

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Hi all, I came across this site by accident and am enjoying it immensely , I think sites are a good ice breaker, but at some point you've got to meet. I like eye contact, body language, voice inflection and spontaneity. Went on the Amsterdam trip met some good people whom I hope will become good friends . Point is I wouldn't have met them without the site P.S. love em all ok what was the question again sorry age thing Jim F.                                                                                                                                                                             

Jim, need to get yourself to the xmas party next then - meet the rest of us (although that may change your mind lol)