To be honest Jackie, those I speak to (and who Ian knows too) really don't even bother about it, they know me for who I am, for the laugh they can have with us & for the friendships we have all formed, males & females, I have never (before now) had an insult or bi*chy comment passed, but then again, that's the mentality of the people we both know and I feel lucky to call my friends, they don't judge on what someone looks like but on their actions