Yup I've heard that many times, to be a good liar you have to have a good memory.... that definately rules me out.   Who am I btw                                                                                                                                                                              

 honest as the day is long ! but would you believe me ?                                                                                                                                                                              

Well those that know me have always said I don't suffer fools gladly and say it how I see it and I expect the same back from my friends. Trust is a fragile thing and if you catch someone out in one lie how can you trust anything they have said or their motivation for the things they do.

I know some people think it's more important to try and spare peoples feelings and will bend the truth to suit the situation but I don't subscribe to that school of thought. You may end up with fewer friends but the ones you end up with are worth a 100 of the sort that can't be trusted.

Would be great if we all told the truth but thats just never going to happen. just ask your MP                                                                                                                                                                              

theres honesty and theres honesty,,, A new employer can ask for an uptodate cv and your expected not to tell lies on it,,,

you get a new hair do which is awfull and ask your man ,, do you like it?? does he say yes its great just to please you? or say actually no i dont,,,

a little white lie to save somebody you care about pain is ok as long as there are no repercusions ie>> why didnt you tell me !!!                                                                                                                                                                             

Sorry boody but I belive if you don't want to hear a negative response then you shouldn't ask people the question, that goes or hair cuts or more important things.  There's far to much bending the truth around these days and if it's Ok to lie to spare someones feeling where do you draw the line and who's to say the line you draw is the same line that another person will draw. 

I gotta go with Gloom on that one ... 

If Ian told me a 'white lie' ... yes darling you look lovely in that & then I saw my mom, who is more direct than me & would say 'what made you pick that you look awful/fat/washed out whatever'  it would hurt more that he did not tell the truth & I went out in something that was not right instead of being truthful                                                                                                                                                                              

Does my a**e look big in this or Is my B*m as big as her's overthere,
  Come on ladies what should the right answer be then. Personally when my wife asks me these she gets the truth "Yes to both" and then the fight starts                                                                                                                                                                              

WB - alot of the time it's a confidence thing so you are never going to be right.... whatever you say.

I would rather be told if it looks poop but tbh if i really wanted to wear it then it wouldnt really matter what other people thought i looked like in it, cos if it makes me feel good then i'm wearing it...end of !!
                                                                                                                                                                             

damn right feisty good answer,, if i was asked my opinion on anything i do like to be honest but,, allways carefull how i say it,,                                                                                                                                                                             

BJ hit the nail on the head (tact, diplomacy and consideration).  A good percentage of peeps on here have probably been victim to life changing lies, so we know how much pain they can cause, but occasionally being 'economical with the facts' to save someone's feelings isn't a bad thing.   It also depends on who you're talking to, some people welcome brutal honesty, others are destroyed by it.   If her bum is as big as Belgium, save her feelings and just say Luxembourg... Simple.                                                                                                                                                                               

Honesty, definately. I would never deliberately hurt someone by an answer I knew they wouldn't like, it's not what you say but how you say it so I would tactfully be honest, depending on the person. My best friends know they'll get a blunt honest answer to anything but that's what they expect and vice versa. I would never ask anyone if my a--e looked big in something, I don't care, I wear what feels comfortable for me, but anything else, I would want a direct, honest answer, why ask otherwise?   Anne                                                                                                                                                                              

Have to agree with you there FG ...

I must say ... sometimes someone being 'honest' is a perception rather than a truth ... Just cos its said ... doesnt make it true ... IMO
 
Also have to agree with Jackie ... Tact n Diplomacy are a must with me.
Being 'honest' should NEVER be a license to inflict emotional or mental hurt on another person.
Thats not honesty IMO thats Malice

Again ... Just my ikkle opinion :)

I'm with shorty, if someone asks my opinion then they'll get the truth, I don't have to say it in a horrible way however.  In another community people would put up Poser work for feedback and I earned the title of "Critic".  I always aimed for it to be positive and constructive however.

That doesn't mean I go out looking for a fight.

meny a truth said in jest
meny a lie sied in anger
                                                                                                                                                                             

Whatever the situation, honesty always pays.                                                                                                                                                                             

up honesty is best but with women you can't win!!!!

Perhaps a joke will help to illustrate.
A man and woman are leaving a movie. The woman asks, “Do you think Sigourney Weaver is pretty?”
The guy knows this is potential trouble, but he also knows he has to answer.
“Well, yeah, she's ok I guess,” he says, trying not to sound at all enthusiastic. Nothing else is said and the guy feels relieved.
Two weeks later they are in a restaurant having dinner.
“How’s the food?” she asks.
“A little dry,” he says.
“Well, then,” she says, her tone snide and suddenly hostile, “Maybe you should have had Sigourney Weaver make it for you!”

It’s a funny joke, and might be best left to the realm of humor until you consider that this is how many men live their lives; trying their best to not say the wrong thing, even if they have to lie, and constantly being set up with a series of questions for which there is no right answer.
Come on guys you've all been there and girls you've all put someone there at least once?????????????
                                                                                                                                                                             

Question   ....

How many of us have been bought a gift for whatever occasion by a loved one, (especially Grannies and frickin knitted jumpers) who gave it genuinely believing it was something you would love and hated it????  Are these things in the back of the wardrobe or drawer or did you say ' i dont like it'  ???

mmm
like dose my bum look big in this

im my case yes it dose i have a big bum

but no what u meen
                                                                                                                                                                             

Whattttt !
Lardy says your bum is well proportioned and is just the rite size for him lol xx