Hey guys
I hear you and understand. Let's look positively forward though and find a "best of both worlds" solution.
I can think of a few things...
1) On the search page you have "Only events my friends attend". I can also add "Only events with minimum attendance of 1, 5, 10, 20 members"
2) Need to push people to USE the calendar and actually put their names down. I'll figure out a way to do this. Maybe a little prompt when you open the event saying "do you plan to visit this event - yes or no?"
3) I could add a Yes/No flag to the database for "BM Event". So if the event is specifically by BM members for BM members then the box is ticked. This would then be a searchable piece of data allowing me to highlight BM-organised events in the calendar overview (and also searchable on the search page).
What do you think? Please no negative / unproductive feedback - just be clear about your thoughts and how you think it could be improved, rather than complaining about how it is. Such feedback is always much more welcome and less disheartening for me to read