To the OP, who seems to have run for cover... you only get out of BM what you put into it. Get out to social events, meet up with folks, and be patient

The right person is worth waiting for

Now, to the mad ladies of BM off for cream teas.... don't forget to lift your pinkie in the air while sipping your tea

And if you demand the tea be served in a mug, then you know you're a biker to the core