spydapete
The main point of conversation at the Oakdene on sunday by all the fellas was "Wonder where Redrider is?" Seems everyone sent a message to her, maybe we scared her off? Has anyone had a reply or message or been looked at lots? Maybe Matt put the profile picture on to get more fella's to join cause we're getting out numbered by the girls! lol. Any thoughts.....
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Maybe she's out riding with Fiery?
Phil
all I can say is that Redrider is still abouts and accessing the site. We mods can see when you come and go. oh the power mewahhhhh
Wannabe
Give the woman a break Pete!
Seems everyone sent a message to her, maybe we scared her off?
You've answered your own question... Do you really think it will help to have the poor woman's ID appear as the topic of a discussion?
You're a decent bloke Pete... I know you'd never deliberately cause offence or make someone feel uncomfortable, but if I was Red Rider and I saw this thread I'd be thinking to myself "Thank feck I never turned up Sunday! He'd probably have jumped me or something!"
I suspect that Fiery was also put off by the overly flirtatious remarks on her thread. (And possibly OTT PMs behind the scenes?)
Guess what chaps?
Some women are NOT gagging for it. Some women genuinely only want to make some friends. Some women get seriously put off by over the top messaging and texting from strangers.
FFS! I've even had a wink from someone since I disabled my sodding profile on here! "Seeking: nobody" didn't do the trick, so I figured disabling the profile might... but noooooo... oh nooooo...
Fortunately I've been on here long enough to make some RL buddies, so you ain't going to get rid of me that easily... But I can really understand (and relate to) new female members running screaming for the hills.
Here endeth the rant.
Wannabe
I apologise... That was not meant as a personal attack, just a general whinge.
I'm really in a foul mood today, but that's no excuse.
No offence intended.
ttaskmaster
Some women are NOT gagging for it.
Oh, yes they are.....
If you think they're not, explain the seven seasons of Sex In The City.
I will admit though, that women here deserve a more romantic approach. To be honest, I'd have had issue with a couple of the fellas off this site myself, from what I've heard.
Apparently I scared Firey off... though I had to look up who she was before I understood what they meant. I knew they were joking and took it as such, but that's a classic example. More people seem to be coming here and browsing the catalogue of women, just to see "who's up for it".
The idea that this place could go like so many others and turn into a simple Meat Market...... Not what we want, people.
You want a meat market?
You want "seeking meaningless sex with skanky bloke"?
F**k off to Adult Friend Finder.
Wannabe
If you think they're not, explain the seven seasons of Sex In The City.
Can't... never watched it - sorry! ;o)
spydapete
Oh dear, someting that was ment as a joke has certainly back fired. Just because i wanted to chat to someone that lives very close to me and had the same bike as me (at the time) DOES NOT mean i simply wanted to jump them! Some of us are actualy looking for new friends and riding buddies. Too many sites have people on them claiming to be something they are not, lots of folk end up chatting with a 70yr old bald fat bloke pretending to be a georgous 20yr old blonde. I'm very sorry if i have caused offence to anyone and i will leave the site now as i feel i've lost peoples trust and respect. I appollogise again, regards Pete Diamond.
Karey
Nor me .. and Good on Ya WB!!
Karey
Heyyy Pete, no need to leave, I'm sure.
You raised a concern and it's caused a bit of a debate, like most topics on here.
I agreed wiv WB because lots of ppl on here arnt just after a bit of hows yr father and genuinely want help and advice on all sorts of matters, as well as bit of a laff and a social life.
We need good old debates.. life would be boring wivout them.
Wannabe
Pete, don't talk soft...
Like I said:
You're a decent bloke Pete... I know you'd never deliberately cause offence or make someone feel uncomfortable,
I know this thread was supposed to be tongue in cheek, but when you're on the receiving end of incessant PMs or texts from strangers, it can be really off-putting.
You don't know who the person is from Adam, you read horror stories about people meeting strangers from t'interweb and it all goes horribly wrong... It's really scary taking the plunge and turning up to a meet.
My comments were not intended as a personal attack against you Pete.
I apologise.
I was just trying to get the point across that bombarding people with messages tends to put them off, rather than encouraging them to respond or meet up with you.
Wills
WB sounds like you're having a pig of a day, looking at your other posts.
Telling you to cheer up is pretty trite, but when things are bad remember tomorrow is another day and you can always unload on the regulars here and we'll just keep bouncing back with a few shoulders to cry on and some friendly cyber-hugs.
Karey
here here!!... we all need sumone's shoulder at sum time or another !
Wannabe
Having a bad day is no excuse for upsetting someone enough they feel they have to leave the site.
I do stand by what I say... I just should've found a less aggressive way to say it.
Again, I apologise.
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I've just looked at Redrider, and she's gorgeous, you can't blame the blokes for being a bit keen, thay are only blokes after all!!! One has to make allowances!!!
TeeCee
Oi littlechick!! That is SUCH a sexist thing to say implying that all men are suckers for a pretty face... in fact I would go so far as to say... hang on... I'll reply later... that fit weather girl is on the telly.....
Wannabe
Littlechick - even I had PM'd the poor woman.
On Sunday, when we met up with everyone, it turned out that pretty much every single person on the meet had PM'd her (some more than once)... She was probably thinking "Sheesh! They're a bunch of nutters! I'm staying home."
I tend to drop a line to everyone who signs up for a meet that I've organised as a little thank you and introduction, to explain where we'll be waiting etc...
Anyway. I've seriously upset Pete, so it's time to apply the gaffer tape to my gob and STFU.
Just for the record:
At no stage during this discussion have I intended to imply or infer that Pete is some sort of stalker or that anyone would be in danger from him.
I believe Pete to be a decent bloke and my knowledge of him is that he would never knowingly cause offence or discomfort to anyone.
The points I was trying to raise were supposed to be in reference to people generally going OTT and bombarding other people with PMs or text messages.
I shall return to keeping a low profile. I'm obviously not in the right headspace for this place at the moment. Apologies for causing offence, for causing Pete to spit the dummy and for leaving my cave too early, before being ready to interact with humanoids again.
TeeCee
Oi WB!! Who you calling a humanoid???
Pete - if you can read this, maybe consider coming back... it really is much ado about nothing... mountains out of molehills... many a mickle makes a muckle.... what's Mister Chips doing....etc etc. Noone thinks bad of you!!!
WB - can respect your decision for keeping a low profile although many a true word is written in rant... or in jest.. or in custard.. or whatever the damn phrase is.
Angry, sad, depressed, happy, drunk, slightly achey in one knee - you will always be welcomed amongst friends here. Don't shut yourself out...
Anyway, I am not without blood on my hands in this matter. I think all of my PMs and constant attention for TangoMan must have forced him from this site. Took me a while to realise we were both straight men! I miss that dude......
ttaskmaster
FFS! I've even had a wink from someone since I disabled my sodding profile on here! "Seeking: nobody" didn't do the trick, so I figured disabling the profile might... but noooooo... oh nooooo...
So explain how come I'm not being inundated with lewd PMs from women, as my profile also says I'm spoken for.
Am I not pretty, then?
:)