Personally speaking I find this site is getting more and more like Tinder every week, I think most users on here now just treat this like a dating site solely and do not interact on the forums.
From my own experience the last few months all I have been getting from some men are requests for sexting and smutty talk, 'tis especially puzzling when I specifically have on my profile that I am NOT looking for anyone.
(Nowt wrong with smutty talk btw but I will keep it solely for my man and not some stranger on tinterweb thank you very much, plus 'tis very discourteous to approach someone for the first time like that IMO)
I also think a lot of women are on here for Tinder-like use too so am not just targeting the fellas for that stuff
Stuie I think some women find it hard to strike up a friendship/chat with a fella who is attached, they fear it can cause problems, that is my guess why they are aloof.
If some people are using this as a dating site they really should take the time to read the profiles and see what the person is looking for, then message, if the person doesn't answer them back then just move on to the next nice person you see